North County Women's Shelter & Resource Center

P.O. Box 2155 * 7360 El Camino Real, #3  Atascadero, CA 93423

Phone (805) 461-1338 * Fax (805) 461-8115

After Hours Hotline: (805) 549-8989 or 1-800-549-8989

*We Can Help 24 Hours/Day - 7 Days/Week*

 

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Why Doesn't She Leave?

Reasons can include:

1.            Loneliness.

2.          She does not want to leave her children.

 

3.          She has no place to go.

 

4.          She lacks financial resources and employment skills.

 

5.          She hopes her husband will change.

 

6.          She does not know where, or how, to seek help.

 

7.          She fears reprisals from her husband.  She is afraid of what the man will do to her and her children if she tries to leave him.

 

8.          She is afraid to live without a man.

 

9.          She believes the children need a father and a mother.

 

10.      She considers divorce a stigma; she believes she has to keep her husband and family together at all costs, despite the pain and danger.

 

11.       She loves her husband.

 

12.      She knows it is difficult for women with children to find affordable, good

quality childcare.

13.      She believes it is shameful for women to admit they don’t have good marriages.

 

14.      She considers her husband a victim and wants to help him.

 

15.      She is blamed by society for her own victimization.

 

16.      She believes she is at fault and she has no worth as a person.

 

17.      Police, lawyers, courts, the law itself, mental health professionals, clergy, friends, medical personnel and family members often provide unstated approval of wife beating.

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