North County Women's Shelter & Resource Center

P.O. Box 2155 * 7360 El Camino Real, #3  Atascadero, CA 93423

Phone (805) 461-1338 * Fax (805) 461-8115

After Hours Hotline: (805) 549-8989 or 1-800-549-8989

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Domestic Violence Defined:

The abuse, mental, or physical, of one person by another person with whom the abused has a significant and intimate relationship.

Domestic violence can occur in relationships whether the couple:

¨             Is living together or not living together

¨             Is married, divorced, separated or not married

¨             Has children or does not have children

¨             Is a heterosexual or homosexual

Violence in relationships can take a number of forms.  The abuse ranges from verbal attacks to sexual assault.

Verbal Abuse

            Actual threats of harm to her or someone else, threats to take the children, to commit suicide; putdowns, name-calling, sarcasm; ridiculing her for her religious beliefs or ethnic background

Intimidation

            Smashing things, destroying her property, putting fist through wall, handling of guns or other weapons, intimidating body language (angry looks, raised voice), hostile questioning, reckless driving.

Emotional Abuse

            Manipulation, denial, withdrawal, control, extreme jealousy.

Isolation

            Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, where she goes; keeping her from making any friends, talking to her family, having a job, having any money.

Physical

            Pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping, choking, hair-pulling, punching, grabbing, kicking, beating, biting, shaking, burning, using a weapon against her; i.e., knives, guns, heavy objects.

Sexual

            Forcing her to perform sexual acts she doesn’t want to do or that cause pain or humiliation; rape; physically attacking the sexual parts of her body; forcing her to have sex with others.

Denial of Rights

            Not allowing her any privacy, locking her up in a room, tying her to a chair, forcing her to go without food or water, not allowing her to bathe, hiding necessary medications.

 

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